Oh Bethany, it's so hard. We all know that hurt, and it's a laid-bare, heart-breaking, gut-wrenching hurt. I'm so sorry. Give yourself time, honey.
xoxoxo

P.S. You've got a wonderful mom.

I'm late, too. Man, I'm ready for a little trip and some fibery fun...

Hugs to you and Bethany. I'm glad that she's doing a little bit better.

I saw this post a little late but yes, I remember that hurt all too well. Give her a hug for me. She will emerge much stronger.

Give her a hug from me too.

Sandy - Broken hearts are so difficult - I too have a daughter in college - she's still looking. So tell Bethany that she is lucky to have loved!!
How's the WW coming? I'm plugging along too!

awwwwwwwwwwwww!
i remember that feeling, all so well.

Poor Bethany! Lucky that she has you to help her through this. I guess the next care package will be more needed than ever. Hard to wrap hugs though.

HUUUUGS to Bethany. Please just let her know that she is in our thoughts.
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It's wonderful that she called YOU for solace, though, isn't it? I remember what it felt like the first time I had my heart broken, and my mother was the LAST person I wanted to discuss it with.

Poor thing!!! Boys are stupid....to quote my Princess Cupcake who just turned 11!! I look back and realize that if I hadn't encountered all the "stupid" boys in my life I wouldn't have such an appreciation for my husband....but sure is hard while you are going through it!!

you're a good mum.

My sympathies to your daughter - and it sounds like you handled it fabulously!

Hugs to your girl. Sounds like you handled the break-up beautifully.

You sound like such a good mom. I should take notes in my little mommy-book.

Sometimes life really sucks, my heart goes out to Bethany. Stupid boys, stupid Pete, he won't know what he's missing until it's too late.

Oh, the hurt! You're a wonderful mom for not repeating those words. Those words never address the pain. I hope her grief is as short-lived as possible.

She is a lovely young woman.

That's too bad. You are right not to call him down and just listen and send telephone hugs. She'll appreciate that more.

See? Your baby still needs you.

Thank you for sharing that. I still have that to look forward to.
{{{Bethany}}}

omg it hurts so much when your babies hurt! and what are we to do but listen, hug, listen more, hug more, and nod in agreement about the hurt.
My heart goes out to her and to you!
(((((hugs from here))))))))))

My son's girlfriend, and also his best friend, just broke up with him. Just listen and hug...that's the best we can do. I'll be thinking of you as I do the same for my son.

My first heartbreak was a Steve-asshole too... but my mom decided not to say it until I figured it out for myself. Bethany is lucky that she has a mom she can talk to. Right about when I stopped needing a mom to take care of my physical needs, my mom evolved into a very close and indispensible friend. It was my first year of college, too...

What a good mom you are! Thanks for the great example.

Big hugs to Bethany and you too!! Double fudge brownie sundaes with extra whipped cream (must be shared with each other) is always a great pickup!

And the guy behind the counter? He's usually single and quite cute too.

Mittens can wait. Tears and hugs from mom, and a loving ear. I feel for you both. Hugs

Big ouch. Let her cry as much as she can. It wrings you out like a washcloth, but feels better when you're done.

Sympathy hugs and chocolate to Bethany and to you, Sandy. You have lots of us sending you both healing thoughts.

Oh, poor Bethany. The first break-up is always the hardest and never forgotten easily. You're a wonderful mom- at age 16 I wasn't able to have that meaningful conversation with my mom- I hid all that sort of stuff from her. Ditto on the chocolate and ice-cream. She's a lovely girl and when the time is right she'll find another good friend. Hugs to you both!

Does she like old(ish) movies? Have her watch The Way We Were. Hands down the absolute BEST break-up movie EVER. Add to it some Ben & Jerry's and it will make it just a teensy bit better. Hugs to her. One of the worst hurts ever. And hugs to you too.

When I was helping my 5yo through her own version of (minor) heartbreak last week, all I could think was, "How am I ever going to cope when she's older and someone breaks her heart?" But now you've led by your example. ;)
Hugs to all of you.

Well, from one Mom to another - my heart goes out to both of you. College life just ain't easy on Mother's or Daughters!
Sheri in GA

Poor Bethany! The first heartbreak is always so hard. I remember sobbing into my dad's shoulder when I was 17 - losing my best friend and boyfriend is a really hard blow. And that was when he told me that he had had his heartbroken at about the same age. It helped and it didn't help. But a loving shoulder to cry was sure appreciated.

I hope Bethany is alright. And chocolate ice cream (with magic-shell topping) is always appreciated.

Good priorities. May her heart heal quickly (if imperfectly as is usually the case with first loves).

Aw, poor Bethany. All the above advice is true, especially the ice cream one. Maybe knit her one of those voodoo dolls? Those are always fun when you're down. Tis the season to be evil!

Poor Bethany :(
I'm glad it wasn't a physical hurt, but they often heal quicker than a heart hurt. My first love was called Steve, too. And he was a world class asshole, too.
But I still sometimes get a pang when I think how much I hurt when it was over.

Aw, poor, poor Bethany. It's such a hard thing to get through. If only we could wrap our kids up so that nothing sad or bad could ever happen to them.

So sorry your Bethany is hurting so badly right now. You are doing all you can do - I remember my first broken heart - I think we all do, and there's not much that makes it better than having lots of support and love around us and time.

Awww . . . Yep. This is what a Mom must do. (But yes, I'm glad the crying-call didn't involve bloodshed of any kind. Emotional damage can last longer, but it still doesn't have quite the horrific impact as mangled bones.)

you're a good mom.

The loss of a first boyfriend. Oy, that hurts. I remember when it happened to me. I sat in my mother's lap and cried for 3 days. And I was 17. Just hug her and listen to her. And perhaps some chocolate. The poor kid.

Tell her she's not alone and give her chocolate. Better yet, chocolate ice cream. ;^) What a hard thing to go thru that first time. Not that it ever gets better...

And your mother was right, but, right now, I think they all are...

There is nothing harder. I still remember the absolute pain of that first breakup and the endless crying and sadness. It does get better but man, it's so hard to have any perspective when one is so young and feels things so deeply.

Ohh yes, I still remember that hurt. It HURTS, too! I'm sorry for your sweet Bethany. Things will get easier... you and I know that... but she will figure it out soon. Some of the best things in my life (my husband... moving across the country) came after that awful breakup. Everything will be okay.